Last week I was out at the doggie park where I can let my dogs run freely while I walk the paths within the gated park. I love going to the park with my dogs because it is a great time for me to do a little walking meditation while grounded in nature. Most folks at the dog park are pretty friendly and the love for our animals clearly shows through. Most of the time, we end up petting new-found canine friends and chatting with their owners.
On this particular day while I was walking, I noticed a young man walking towards me with his small dog. From a distance, I saw the logo on his sweatshirt and thought “how cool, that dude is wearing Angel wings on his sweatshirt!” However, as we got closer to one another, I noticed that the logo was really a spider figure and what I thought were wings were actual legs coming out from the spider’s body!
Six months ago, I probably would have thought, “yuck, I hate spiders…”, but this time I was intrigued because I saw something different in that logo. It was a morphing of angelic wings onto a spider’s body… this was pretty interesting to me because in the early morning of Valentine’s day, a relative I had recently re-connected with since I was a little girl, had died from terminal cancer, and the image of the spider held a different meaning for me than it would have in the past.
I had messaged this relative (Shawn) a few days before he died,telling him that I thought the symbol for him coming back to me after he died would be a spider (it’s a long story but suffice it to say that when I was a little kid, whenever I thought of this person, I thought of the dead tarantula he had hanging on the doorknob of his bedroom…).
After Shawn had died, I knew that I would never have the same intense fear I used to have as spiders… I would instead see a spider as a critter to be revered versus feared because the spider has great symbology:
- Spiders are weavers of intricate designs… they are a great symbolism of creativity. As an author, I want to tap into the spider’s message of using my creativity to weave stories that will make a difference in the lives of others.
- Spiders are a symbol of patience. They can sit absolutely still while waiting for a fly to enter their web. Patience is something I have been working towards my whole life, so the symbol of a spider can remind me to breathe slowly and deeply… to keep myself grounded.
- Spiders also can be viewed as a dark energy. Some spiders bite and some of those bites could be life threatening. Spiders are a good reminder that we can all experience some dark energy in our lives when we feel threatened. Spiders don’t normally just crawl up on someone and attack, they generally bite when they have been disturbed or feel in danger. I know when I feel in danger or disturbed by something or someone, I can react negatively too, and my words and actions can “bite” those who surround me. The spider can be a great reminder to back off quietly into a corner and allow the feeling of anxiety or fear to pass versus going on the attack.
- Spiders are viewed as female energy. Spiders take great care to weave their webs, to be creative in finding their food source, and to always rebuild when their webs are destroyed. They are not evil… they are a balance between delicate and strong… just like the webs they weave. I too want to be balanced… to be a gentle person who is delicate in her care for others balanced with strength to move out of the shadows and live life with creativity, patience, and love.
What is an area in your life where you might be able to change-up a negative perception into a positive one?
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