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The lyrics include some of the following:
To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under Heaven…
A time to be born, a time to die. A time to plant, a time to reap. A time to kill, a time to heal. A time to laugh, a time to weep. A time to build up, a time to break down. A time to dance, a time to mourn. A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together. A time to love, a time to hate. A time of war, a time of peace. A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing. A time to gain, a time to lose. A time to rend, a time to sew…
Okay, how many of you are humming this song or singing it in your head now? I am, but thankfully I am sitting cloistered in my office because I am totally off key!
I was thinking about this song yesterday as I went on my daily meditative walk. The truth is, there is duality in everything we experience, and we cannot truly understand only one aspect of a situation, unless we have experienced the other. If we never experienced sorrow, would we really know what true Joy is?
When we experience things that feel dark… most of the time, it will spark negative thoughts… right? If I am sad, I may cry and that can conjure up negative thoughts for me or for those who see me cry… maybe my tears are due to anger, fear, or sadness and those are not always viewed as positive emotions.
However, crying is a release of emotion… a catharsis… a way to move beyond the “ticked off”, scared, or sad feelings. Then one day we feel happier and when we start laughing and smiling, it feels pretty damn good! The thing is, if we had not experienced that anger, fear, or sadness, I wonder if the feeling of being happy would have such a great impact on us?
The same feelings can happen in organizations also. How many of you are going through a change at your workplace? How many of you are impacted by job loss at this time? How many of you are taking on new responsibilities that you are feeling a bit overwhelmed by?
In order for people and organizations to thrive, it is important that they experience both sides of the duality concept. If you lose your job, you can feel sad… angry… and possibly hurt. It is also a great time to reflect on whether you want to go back to work in the same field, or maybe take the opportunity to move into something you have had a passion for, but never felt the timing was right to make the move.
As a business leader for over twenty-five years, I have had numerous people come to me and say “losing my job was the BEST thing that ever happened to me”. Those people experienced the dark side of job loss, and only through that experience, were they able to understand and embrace the really good aspects of losing their jobs, finding something new and fulfilling.
If you are going through organizational changes as we enter into this new year, remember the lyrics “a time to build up, a time to break down”. Great organizations change… if they don’t, they will limp along and possibly die. Great organizations need to experience the duality of being not so great, in order to understand what it is to be GREAT.
The same thing goes for individuals. Individuals need to experience change too… if they don’t, they will also limp along and their light will dim. Individuals also need to experience the duality of not feeling so great, in order to understand what it is to be filled with light, energy and happiness.
What changes are you experiencing today? Are you on the dark or the lighter side of that duality?
Pat Sheveland, CMC, ACC
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