Last week my husband posted a picture and a few words about his dad on Facebook. This may not seem like a huge deal and people may wonder “why is she writing a blog about her husband writing a Facebook post?” To me, it is a huge deal… a huge deal because of the fact that my husband is not the expressive one in our family. He is generally more quiet… a guy of few words.
The words to Bob Dylan’s song comes to mind “For the times they are a-changin’… only the lyrics I am hearing in my head are “For my husband he is a-changin’…”
Reading my husband’s post about his dad (always moving… hands never idle) brought tears to my eyes. Why? Because writing that post was a BIG deal for my husband too. He does not write and he certainly does not publicly announce his love for his family… that’s just the way he rolls… or the way he has rolled up until now…
My husband expressed himself from his heart and gave his dad the greatest gift possible… the gift of acknowledgement from his child. Acknowledging how much he is appreciated… how much he is admired… and how much he is LOVED by his eldest child.
So why did my husband decide to write a post on Facebook about his dad? I am not sure but I believe it is because he has changed… change from transitioning as a child to a teenager and from teenager to adult. He has become a husband… a father… and now a grandfather. He understands his dad in a way that he never did when he was young. He understands that his dad shows his love by doing for others… by puttering… by fixing… by taking care of things… for us.
My husband has changed not only because he has a greater understanding of his dad but also because he has become his dad in many ways. My husband also shows his love by puttering… by fixing… by taking care of things… for all of us.
Yes, the times they are a-changing’…
What is one of the greatest gifts of acknowledgement you have ever received? What is the greatest acknowledgement you have given?