Who are you?

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 “Who are you,  who… who… who… who? ~ The Who (1978)~

Do you remember the song Who are you by the Who?  That song has been in my head all morning  because I have thought about some feedback I received this past week.

As part of a coaching assessments course I am taking through my  MentorCoach Program (http://www.mentorcoach.com),  the assignment last week was to send out a short survey to get feedback from people who know me well (from work, home and friends) to get some feedback on how they see me when I am at my best.

I feel that I have a pretty good understanding of myself and I am very clear that I am at my absolute best when I am contributing to others.  My contribution might be through my role as a leader in my organization, through my coaching business or when I am passionately promoting events that support  causes that are near and dear to my heart (e.g. my local Toast to the TaTas fundraising event, or my work as a camp nurse for a Family Grief camp).   So it was no surprise when the folks who answered my little survey came up with the same view of me at my best.

What did surprise me was the fact that three people (who did not speak to each other about this survey) all responded that they felt a good career for me outside of being a leader and a coach, was to be a motivational speaker.   A motivational speaker… really…? I have never really  considered the possibility of being a motivational speaker… in fact,  the thought of getting up in front of large groups to speak (especially people I know), gives me a bit of the heebie geebies.  The butterflies in my stomach go nuts until I tap into the passion of what I am talking about and then the words just pour out of me.  When I start talking about something I believe strongly in,  I become more energized and animated the more I speak… hmm,  maybe that is what motivational speaking is all about?

Last week,  I also had a conversation with a small business owner client I work with.  She was telling me a story of how a mentor of hers who she hadn’t seen in a few years, walked into her business one day and told her what a natural and powerful “healer” she was.  My client (who I would not describe as and overly “touchy feely” type) became visibly overcome with emotion as she was recounting this conversation with her mentor… the tears flowed down her cheeks and she found it difficult to speak through her emotion.  For her, it was the first time in her life that she felt someone acknowledged her so greatly and it was from someone she respected so intensely.

My client did not realize how great of a healer she is.  What she saw in her best self was a bit different than how others saw her…

AHA moments are so awesome…

Finding new insight into ourselves is like a butterfly emerging from the cocoon… its wings moist from being what it once was (the caterpillar)… much like our faces wet with tears when we experience those deep and powerful moments of self-realization.  When we act upon our AHA moments and utilize the new insight(s) to spread our wings,  we can take flight into a whole new world of possibilities… how cool is that?

So now that I have had a realization that being a motivation to others is being my best self,  I am going to move forward and spread my wings by:

  • Creating a plan of action to improve my speaking skills (e.g. Toastmasters).
  • I am going to share my insights and my plan with those who gave me their input and thank them for taking the time to contribute to me.
  • I am going to use this AHA moment to share with others… to be a motivator…

to be who I am…

What is your  “at your best” story?  I would love to hear from you and hear your stories!

4 thoughts on “Who are you?

  1. I want to go to Toastmasters with you. I have been looking for a group. I have emailed two groups with no reply. I need to go back and look for telephone numbers… lets do this together:) or Hey, lets start our own Toastmaster group!

    1. Hi Barb,

      I am actually starting a Toastmasters Club at our organization in Bloomington and it will most likely be an open meeting (meaning that people outside of our organization can be members). Would love to have you join. We are having an intro meeting that I will send you the information on. The meetings will be on-site at our offices over a noon hour. We should have it up and running in probably the next month.

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